Voicing out:::BringBackOurGirls

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My tears turn to prayers, and my prayers turn to thoughts-on-a-page as i engrave this dreadful incident that brought sadness to our Nation…

School activities turned to exam tension and exam tension turns to a horrible nightmare as the Chibok girls get kidnapped from school…

Minutes turn to hours, and hours turn to days & weeks, as the traumatized missing girls expect a rescue team to bring them home…

Shock turns to tears, and tears turn to anguish & helplessness as the parents of the Chibok girls await the rescue of their missing daughters…

A few voices turn to a thousand, and a thousand voices  turned to multiples as Nigerians protest for the missing girls to be rescued…

One Nation turns to more, and more Nations turn to much more as International communities join the BringBackOurGirls Movement…

Queries turn to anger, and anger turns to being stupefied as we are puzzled at why anyone would be so inhuman as to kidnap those innocent girls.

Inquisitions turn to accusations, and accusations turn to dismay as Nigerians watch the Government do little or nothing to rescue the Chibok girls…

My tears turn to voicing out “Help Our girls in any way you can” and my voicing out turns to my-thoughts-on-a-page as i hope and pray the Chibok girls get rescued…

Helplessness turns to prayers and prayers turns to hope as we
have faith in God to intercede and BringBackOurGirls safe and sound.

…The Amazing Vinegar…

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Hey you *waves*. Compliments of the new year…hope your year started on a good note :D …either way….iHave this new ‘craze’ that iGot to know about while iWas in search of hair care products some weeks back… iCouldnt just keep to myself *itching to share*…and without much ado about much talks, my new craze is non-other than *drum roll* the Apple Cider Vinegar(ACV).

Now before you go all…”D’uh! I Know vinegar and all”…hear me out ok…iDid a whole lot of research (online, by trial and also via friends that have good word about ACV)…just patiently read to the bottom of the post and trust me, you’ll find yourself wanting to have a bottle of vinegar in your kitchen, toilet or room….and hey this is for both  ladies and dudes.

I’ve always known about Vinegar, but little did i know that it is used in many more ways than just as a classic salad dressing ingredient (which iLearnt from my mum)….and before iDive into telling you what vinegar does from my research and trial…it is best you know what vinegar is (+made of).

Vinegar is a sour liquid that is generally used to flavor or preserve foods and also to clean things. Vinegar is a product of fermentation. This is a process in which sugars in a food are broken down by bacteria and yeast. In the first stage of fermentation, the sugars are turned into alcohol. Then, if the alcohol ferments further, you get vinegar.
Vinegar can be made from all sorts of things like fruits, vegetables, and grains, and apple cider vinegar comes from pulverized apples, and that is my new craze .

Now here are some of the things you can use Apple Cider Vinegar(ACV) for.

1) Hair Care:

ACV can be used to rinse your hair after a shampoo session. To do this, recycle an old shampoo bottle or buy any empty bottle and fill it with 1/2 or 1 tablespoon of apple cider vinegar and a cup of cold water. Pour the solution through your hair after shampooing several times a week for better results.
ACV, when used as a rinse, will make your hair feel smooth and shiny, and provide a bit of extra clarification to remove oil and dirt. It balances your hair’s pH, which helps seal the cuticle and make the hair smoother. It can also help with dandruff, clear away greasy build-up, and soothe itchiness and irritation of the scalp. Make sure to rinse it out well afterwards so that your hair won’t feel crunchy.
Don’t worry, the vinegar smell will dissipate once your hair dries, so you don’t have to worry about smelling like salad all day.

2) Skin care:

-After shave for guys:
Fill a bottle with equal parts apple cider vinegar and water, and shake before applying to the face.

-Acne:
As mentioned earlier,ACV has antibacterial and antifungal properties to help prevent acne and skin infections. Apple cider kills bacteria, helps balance skin pH, and absorbs excessive oil from our skin. Use 1 part vinegar with 3-4 parts water. Apply to the skin using cotton swab and leave for ten minutes then rinse. Use 2 times every day. Don’t make a fuss about the smell, once the ACV is dry, the smell will disappear.

-Facial toner:
 A dab of apple cider vinegar can also be left on the skin overnight to fade acne scars.(if your skin is sensitive, you might want to dilute acv to suit your sensitivity)
  Mix 1 part ACV with 2 parts water in a water bottle or jug with lid. Shake it up before you use it and pour some on a cotton swab (use after washing your face) and wipe on skin.
You can do this at night after washing, and in the morning before you apply your moisturizer.

-Warts:
For warts, soak a cotton ball in apple cider vinegar, then fasten the cotton ball over the wart with a Band-Aid overnight. The skin may swell some as it reacts with the solution. However, the wart will fall off. Once it falls off, the treatment should be continued for a few more days, to make sure the wart doesn’t return.

3) Infections:

-Candida:
The enzymes in apple cider vinegar also promote the growth of healthy bacteria in the gut, and can help regulate candida issues.
How to take apple cider vinegar orally: Mix 1 tablespoon with a cup of water or herbal tea. (Apple cider vinegar is quite strong, and when taken straight can be harsh on the esophagus, so you’ll want to dilute it).

-Yeast Infections:
Add 1 ½ cups of apple cider vinegar into a bathtub filled with lukewarm water and then soak in it for about 20 minutes. This is done once a day for 3 days.
After 3 days of soaking, make a mixture consisting of 1 ½ cups of water and 2 tablespoons of apple cider vinegar. This time use as a vaginal douche two times a day for 5 days.
After a few days of douching, start to drink a glass of water mixed with 1 teaspoon of apple cider vinegar once a day. This can help prevent the occurrence of yeast infections.

4) house cleaning:

Non-toxic cleaning spray:
Most cleaning supplies are full of harsh chemicals, so apple cider vinegar can surprisingly provide an excellent, cheap alternative to many cleaning products. It absorbs odors and has antibacterial properties.
Simply mix one part apple cider vinegar to one part water, and put it in a spray bottle. Spray the solution on hard surfaces such as hardwood floors, microwave, windows, bathroom tiles, cabinets and countertops, then wipe it off with a rag. The mixture also works as a disinfectant

5) Sunburn relief:
While you should always strive to avoid skin damage by not staying out in the sun uncovered for more than 15 minutes, if you do accidentally find yourself burnt to a crisp, you can use apple cider vinegar to neutralize the burn. Dilute it in water and pat on the sore skin, or add a cupful to your bath.

6) Deodorant:
-Most commercial deodorants are antiperspirants, which block your ability to sweat. Since sweat is one of your body’s natural means of detoxification, blocking your ability to sweat can block your ability to detoxify. It might sound a little crazy, but you can actually use apple cider vinegar as a natural deodorant! Acv neutralizes stinky scents. Simply rub a bit of ACV in your underarms and it will absorb and minimize body odors. The vinegary smell dissipates once it dries.

-Helps Body Odor:
 It helps adjust the skin’s pH level which helps to eliminate odor-causing bacteria. Take a cotton ball filled with ACV and wipe it directly on the part where you have body odor.

7) weight loss:

For daily weight management, add 2 teaspoons of apple cider vinegar to 16 ounces of water. This concoction can be sipped throughout the day. Data shows some limited, yet significant, weight loss benefits from sustained daily intake of acetic acid (which is a main ingredient in apple cider vinegar) as it is said to help you feel fuller and eat less.

Note-In a 2009 study published in Bioscience, Biotechnology, and Biochemistry, it was found that subjects that consumed acetic acid for 12 weeks experienced significant decline in body weight, abdominal fat, waist circumference and triglycerides. Triglycerides contribute to the bad cholesterol that we want to avoid.
Nutritionists believe that combining Vitamin B6 and Lecithin with Apple Cider Vinegar is what helps.

8) Detox:

As part of balancing the body’s pH, apple cider vinegar creates an overall detoxification of the body. Research shows that it can help stimulate cardiovascular circulation and help detoxify the liver.

9) Salad dressing:
-apple cider vinegar is a classic salad dressing ingredient, which you can definitely get a little creative with! While olive oil, the most commonly used oil for salad dressing, is not permitted on the therapy, you can mix your ACV with flax oil and lemon or orange juice, and perhaps even whirr it all together in a blender with a clove of garlic and a bit of onion.

Miscellaneous uses:
It is also believed that ACV does the following….
-Prevents Indigestion – Add 1 teaspoon of honey + 1 teaspoon apple cider vinegar to warm water and drink 30 minutes before you eat.
-Soothes Sore throat – Mix 1/4 Warm water with 1/4 cup apple cider vinegar every hour.
-Help regulate blood pressure and reduce bad cholesterol when you drink it regularly.
-Foot Odor – Add 2/3 cup of ACV to a pan with warm water and soak your feet in it for 20 minutes.
-Bad Breath – Add 1/2 tablespoon ACV into 1 cup of water and gargle every other day.
-Diabetes – helps to control high blood sugar levels.
Cellulite – Mix 3 parts apple cider vinegar with 1 part Vitamin E oil and massage the into the skin two times a day.
-Diarrhea – The pectin in ACV coats the inflamed colon lining. Add 2 tablespoons of ACV vinegar to some water in a large glass – can be taken 3 times a day when you have symptoms.
-High cholesterol: A 2006 study showed evidence that vinegar could lower cholesterol.
-Hiccups: when you have a spurt of those annoying hiccups, drink some ACV with water.
-Stuffy Nose: Sip some ACV and water. This helps sinus drainage.
Rich in enzymes & potassium.
-Beat the Exhaustion from Working out – When you exercise, lactic acid can build up in the body, causing fatigue. Since ACV has amino acids, it can help reverse this. It also contains potassium and enzymes that can help relieve feeling tired. Try drinking some mixed with water after a workout.

Caveat:
If your skin is the sensitive type(or easily prone to react), you should dilute the ACV to a minimum concentration, and also if you have any serious health condition or are under any special medication, be sure to ask your doctor before you start taking or using apple cider vinegar, just to make sure it is safe for you to use.

P.s…another good thing about ACV is that it is quite affordable and easy to get at most stores and market.

Now if you know more uses of ACV please do share :) and also if you have used ACV and have a positive testimony please do share.

Either way, iHope this bit of info was worth your time.
Take care of yourself and catch you on the flip side of my next post.
…Toodles! :D .

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Oh muse, where art thou?

The sound of silence surrounds me
but the echo of my thoughts engulf me

My blinkers keep battering while iLie awake..
yet my emotions seem to be asleep with the rest of the world.

Has my muse forsaken me?
For all iFeel is the captivity of loss-for-words.

So many thoughts and emotions to pen down
Yet my thoughts and pen aren’t in symphony.

Oh muse, where art thou…has thou deserted me?
Or has my fusion with reality made thee jealous?

Like a repentant sinner…
..and as sober as a judge

iLie awake waiting for my muse to propel safe landing of the thoughts me on a page.

Q.B

Diary of a Nigerian.

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A lot of Nigerians like to travel abroad on vacation, to study, for medical reasons and what not. Matter of fact, so many Nigerians fancy living abroad (sometimes, even if it means having to do the ‘unmentionable’ jobs *coughs*). But for what ever reason we find ourselves abroad, we tend to receive (±accept) the tradition, lifestyle and religious practices of the people in the country we visit, almost without being judgemental, sometimes their ways seem to fascinate us. We tend to have some sort of understanding and respect for other people’s ways and not make any big deal out of it. My thoughts are….”Why can’t we have the same respect & understanding for each other’s religious beliefs and cultural practices in Nigeria?”.  

Now when you talk about Nigeria, you’re talking about a Nation that developed from different Kingdoms,’Chief-doms’ & Emirates(+more) into one Country. With different religious practices(Islam, Christianity and Traditional religions), over 500 different languages/dialects and cultural/ethnic practices, sometimes it’s overwhelming to think that we have such diversity yet we are “united” as one Country. But hey let’s get over ourselves because U.S.A comprises people from not just different tribes or religion, but people from different races, yet united they stand too(there’s disparity in comparison here,iKnow right?!…I’m just saying). 

Going a bit personal, since childhood, i’ve travelled to different parts of Nigeria, to see relations or family friends, and sometimes iJust tag along with my mum for one seminar/workshop or the other. I’ve lived ± schooled in 4 different states in Nigeria, and also been to over 25 states( you can blame all that on my nomadic nature LOL). Anyway, each experience has been enlightening and interesting, because iGot to learn a lot about other traditions, cultures and ways of life that are different from the one iGrew up with( and oh, I’m Hausa/Fulani by the way). All that also made me more appreciative, more understanding and respectful of other people’s way of life, and as a result it became a lot easier for me to associate with people from other tribes in school and social gatherings(errm even at home,my Mum had/has friends from different tribes + religion). iNotice that Nigerians tend to associate or hang around people from their Tribe/Religion more than they do with people that aren’t (nothing wrong with that, but it shouldn’t always be so). One major thing i’ve come to realise about so many Nigerians(educated or otherwise) is that their lack of meeting or living with people from other tribes/culture makes them have a negative notion or mindset about those people. They tend to have a negative expectation and conclusion without even having a chance to know them better(iMean, how close-minded can we be?!). Really, it’s surprising that this behaviour or trait is something i’ve seen in even one of my Professors in University.(mentioning his name would mean my funeral *lips sealed*).

There are different instances where people thought wrong or badly about the other Tribe/State only to have a different positive view or interest after having contact with a person different from their tribe and in other cases, after visiting the other person’s place of domicile. What I’m trying to say is, although i know that resentment and cold-shoulder towards people that are different from us ( by religion tribe or race) is somehow human nature (and it’s not peculiar to Nigeria alone), however other Nations live with it and thus focus on the collective good of their country.     

Sometime in 2011, when the issue of the-group-that-must-not-be mentioned was at the peak, with all the bombings and killing, the thought of Nigeria splitting actually crossed my mind. Believe me, iDint have such thoughts with malice or bad intention, but iJust thought maybe, just maybe if we separate, it would serve as some sort of lesson to make us actually realise how important we are to each other. It would be an awakening when we suffer from the loss of what we all benefit from one another and then we would  begin to appreciate one another afterwards. But then again iThought a lot of people have built houses, business empires in different states all over Nigeria, people from different tribes marry one another in this country, we do business dealings and share each others natural resources, we would lose our sovereignty, and it would take us a great deal of years to get back on our feet. So separation will do us more harm than good, and iThink we should look for other ways to resolve out differences and learn to live in unity.

Basically, we need to know and LEARN that this country is not just for one tribe/religious group alone, and the earlier we accept, respect and understand each other the more closer to achieving a better Nation we are going to be. We need to flush out that mentality of “My tribe is superior to yours” , the mentality of “Your religion or cultural practices are repugnant”, the thought that “if so and so is not from my tribe or religion then i can’t hire him or offer him a job”. So many Nigerians would rather vote for an imcompetent person from their place and suffer the consequences than vote for someone who merits a post/position. That thought of “this candidate is not from my place so iWont vote for him” needs to be eradicated. It may be hard, but we need to do away with all these and affiliated mind-sets.

Nigeria is a country that is endowed with strong, smart, hardworking, resilient, industrious, die hard and creative people. Let’s redirect all our energy to uniting as one, loving one another, and ourselves so much so that all we seek is to make this Nation a better, united, peaceful and productive Country. It’s not impossible to achieve, if only you and i put our minds to do it. Our diversity should be an advantage instead of a reason for so much disunity.

God has already blessed Nigeria with “You” (all nigerians) now it’s up to “you”(+i) to be a blessing to Nigeria.

:::Rise Above Tribalism, Resentment, Corruption and any Negativity, then watch how we soar into a better future:::

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Bits & Bots of Life’s Little-Pleasures ….

“iThink it is important to find the little things in everyday life that make you happy” – Paula Cole.

Life is made up of moments, and moments are made up of little events some of which are not major but still quite pleasurable.

Sometimes it is these little events that make a huge difference, and you know what they say “some of the most wonderful things in life come in ‘small packages’”. Any way, relax and enjoy some of my life’s little pleasures, i’m sure you can relate to some of them too.

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1- That first intense body stretch after waking up: Makes me feel like a cat.

2- Sleeping in on a Rainy Day: this is absolute pleasure iTell you ^.^

3- Getting cut off by an over-zealous driver, then pulling up right next to them moments later at a red light. *giggling*

4- Hearing a verse from the holy-book that speaks to you or your situation: It gives so much solace.

5- Going through old pictures and remembering moments that hadn’t crossed your mind in a while. :D

5- “Good morning.” “Good night.” and “Did you get home safe?” text messages from the ones you love: Knowing someone cares about you makes you feel good :).

6- Seeing good things happen to good peole: Dont you just love good karma?!

7- Being in a Free-wifi-zone: It automatically activates your ability to download all sorts and update your applications.

8- Taking a glass of milk or anything milky.(Ice cream, milk-shake…etc). Tasty!!! *candy crush voice*

9- Getting a parking spot after going round and round in an over crowded parking lot: This feels like a blessing actually.

10- Thinking you’re in trouble in school/office and then realising you’re not: Guilty much.

11- That calming feeling you get after crying your heart out.*sigh*

12- Someone saying “iBelieve in you”: Makes you feel super human.

13- Jumping on the bed in slow-motion after a long hectic day. Ahhh,bliss.

14- That time of the day you get to remove your bra. *this is for the ladies lol*

15- Singing & dancing like a Rock-star in your room or while driving. Silly but fun.

16- Playing outdoor games with kids and hearing them say “let’s do it again”.

17- Talking to friends you’ve not been in contact with for a long time.

18- Making the Yellow traffic light: This almost feels like an epic moment LOL.

19- Late night/early morning conversations with good friends or a loved one. This!!!

20- Overhearing someone saying nice things about you: Makes you feel good.

21- Knowing you’re the reason behind someone’s smile or happiness.

22- Being busy for the whole day, and then returning to a phone full of messages and missed calls.

23- Feeling connected to someone and having that person feel the same way too.

24- The relief of taking your shoes and socks off, after a long day of wearing them.

25- Seeing someone you know driving by when you’re so tired and worn out from trekking: Feels like an answered prayer.

26- Waking up, checking the clock and seeing that you have plenty of sleep time left. Ahhh,bliss.

27- Catching a song you enjoy on the radio, right as it starts.

28- Finding money you didn’t know you had in your pocket or bag: It’s almost like a gift to you from you.

29- When events/plans you didn’t want to attend get cancelled.

30- Spontaneous adventures.

31- That moment when you drop your phone, and your ear piece saves its life. So epic.

32- Having the exact change to pay for something: Saves you the trouble of waiting or leaving your change.*giggling*

33- Completing a form on the internet without missing a required field, on the first attempt.

34- Power supply being turned on the very moment you walk into the house.(alot of Nigerians can relate to this).

35- Comfortably chewing a juicy bone at home: This is something you cant really do when youre eating outside.

36- Asking a question on Google and seeing it finish your words: meaning there are others out there wondering the same thing as you.

37- Writing your last word in your last essay in an exam seconds before the examiner says “pens up”.

38- Rushing to the airport when you are late and getting there just in time for take off. *Phew*

39- That scary moment you’re about to fall down but luckily someone gets a hold of you and prevents you from falling.

40- Waking up extremely hungry in the morning and realising there’s food waiting for you. Ou-la-la!!!

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iTry not to get carried away by expecting or waiting for big-bang-events to happen, iFind joy and pleasure from the little events in my life. Either way, Life is too short to overlook the Little pleasures of life.

ToOodles.

If people did not know your age, how old would they think you are?

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“How old would you be if you did not know how old you are ?” :?:

 iRemember the first time iSaw that quote, it was during my facebook freak days. iRushed to update my status with it :lol: …anyway, my bone of contention here is about who a young person is and what qualifies someone as a young person. :?:

The other day, iWas driving down town on a cool breezy and cloudy day after a not so cool CD experience, but that did not get to me because iWas headed towards getting myself a new ‘toy’ (if you know me well you’ll know what iMean by ‘toy’ *giggles*). Anyway, there was this mild traffic that afternoon, but iCouldnt be bothered about the traffic. My mind was miles away from my surroundings… iRemember seeing a mercedes ahead of me, iRemember seeing the green light from far but Lord knows iDint know when the green light turned to orange and red. Next thing iHeard was “GBASH!!!”…and iWas like OMG!!! :shock: Apparently the traffic light was on red and everyone had stopped except yours truly :oops: ….yes iBashed a car in front of me, so iSwiftly jumped out of the car before the person in the car iHit came out…before iCould take a breath a middle aged lady came out of the car and began to rant! “iWont take this from you, iNoticed you from far and knew you were going to hit me, when did you even start driving? I’m sure you don’t know how to drive :evil: ” …iDint let all that get to me because iWas wrong…all iSaid was that iWas terribly sorry…She went on and said “…all these kids, must you drive? must you drive a car? can’t you take a bus or something?!… :evil: ” iWas like say what?! :???:  She went further and said “Call your mum or your dad right now, they must repair my car…all you kids that like driving….I won’t take this from you, your parents must repair my car :evil: “…at that point, my adam’s apple was triple its normal size because iWas pissed :mad: . Just one look at me she concluded i must be a kid or something :twisted: .. iFelt highly insulted but knowing iWas wrong, my next response was “I’m sorry iHit your car ma’am, direct me to your mechanic for the repairs :neutral: “……she led the way and iDrove right behind her bumper-to-bumper to her mechanic’s place. The rest is a story for another day.

You really don’t wanna hear my other experiences, i’ve got so many instances where people look down at me like a high-school person or something, and no I’m not complaining but sometimes it’s embarrassing :oops: and other times it’s totally below the belt. But then again, there are folks that take it personal when people look at them as older than their actual age, it’s a two way thing sometimes. Also, iThink how you feel about the mix up depends on the circumstance and the person judging your looks. Either way, people should learn to respect others no matter how old they are. :idea:

Now what really is the definition of a young person? Is it by looks? and if it’s by age, what age do you consider to be the limit of someone being called “young” ?! ( + or – ) 23, 24,25,26,27,28( + or – ).

:idea: Some say young cannot be specified because it is mostly relative,in the sense that it could be in relation to achievement or in relation to age. For instance, if you are 23 years old in secondary school you sure are old to every one , but if you’re a CEO at 30 everyone will see you as rather a little young. So, to so many people the concept of youth is relative. A friend of mine opined once you’re married you’re no longer a young person no matter what your age. For some, there’s even a category of ‘young adults’ as opposed to ‘young youth’…sounds a bit gibberish yeah?!!

:idea: However, according to the Dictionary: Young means-
 1. being in the first or early stage of life or growth; youthful; not old.
2. having the appearance, freshness, vigor, or other qualities of youth.
3. of or pertaining to youth: in one’s young days.

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Now take a look at Pharrell William or Carly Rae, they look way younger than their age, while some people (won’t use any name for this example) look way older than their real age. Sometimes we see forums or initiatives set up for “The Youth” but it’s older people (age wise) we find in those forums, maybe their definition of youth is not of the age category.

Considering that “young” means different things to different people, personally iFeel you are as young as you feel and you are as old as you look, but then again, at some point, the age factor comes to play in terms of medical factors and all.

Like Steve Harris would say “34 is the new 21″…and as Nabou Love would say “40 is the new 30″ :lol: . All iCan say is that Youth is a state of the mind and if you ask how old iAm, my response would be “I’m old enough”. Old enough for what you may ask, well, that’s for me to know and for you to find out *giggling*

But iStill wonder what youth means to you and so many people out there! :?:

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ToOodles :smile:

Life’s Lessons…(I)

Life, like a tutor, has been a constant yet amazing teacher to me over the years…and believe me, each lesson has a story or more behind it(both personal experience and otherwise). If you can relate to the lessons, then you’re not alone, and if you can’t relate then feel free to learn from what life has taught Bee.

Now nibble on this:

1-Life has taught me that no matter who/what you are, you can’t live in isolation: We all need others to support, love nd share stuff with. (family, lovers, ‘bloodz’ and acquaintances).

2-I’ve learned that life isn’t just about ‘learning’, one needs to know how to ‘un-learn’ and ‘re-learn’. Sounds gibberish yeah? but its quite true.

3-I’ve learnt that before you can master something, you have to totally suck at something. Morale: give yourself permission to suck and you’ll be amazed at how easier learning becomes.

4-I’ve learnt that life is a network of ‘friends in need + in deed’. The person you help is not cardinally the one who helps you when you’re in distress. Don’t expect the person you lend a helping hand to return the favour. Just help out whenever you can, life has a way of rewarding such efforts in different astonishing ways!

5-I’ve learnt to strive like iDont pray…and pray like iDont strive (simultaneously): Your strength + God’s favour = Success. Never do one without the other.

6-Life has taught to me be to someone what they are not to me, and let someone be to me what iCant be to them. You might ask “what mambo-jambo this is?”…*iKnow, iKnow*. Ask me for more info if this is confusing.

7-Life has taught me to absolutely let down my guard and tell someone how much iLove em. Truly, madly and deeply…No ‘ifs’, no ‘buts’.

8-As much as we yearn for our prayers to be answered, I’ve learnt that some of God’s greatest gifts are unanswered prayers.

9-I’ve learnt to forgive people without them asking me for forgiveness, wouldn’t want them to make me a prisoner and hey, life is too short to hold someone in your heart with a bad vibe, use the space to keep something worth remembering.

10-I’ve learnt not to let other people’s negative attitude towards me get the best of my selflessness, at the most, I will avoid such people like a plague.

11-I’ve learnt that there are things iMay have hoped and wished for, but they just aren’t meant to be, and I’m ok with realising that. However, iAlso believe in Never-Say-Never. *Ironic*

12-I’ve learnt not to get mad at anyone for not checking up on me. Everyone has personal stuff they are dealing with.+ Never assume someone is mad at you just cause they don’t keep in touch, seriously don’t be paranoid.

13-I’ve learnt that a relationship with God takes going astray a number of times and having to re-establish faith over and over again.

14-I’ve learnt that once you’ve mastered someone’s behaviour(tho we can’t master it 100%) then you can put up with that person, any day any time. Just learn how to deal with peoples persona.

15-I’ve learnt that if you’re not happy with yo’Self as a person, trying to get someone to make you happy is a futile mission.

16-I’ve learnt that no one is perfect, heck you even disappoint yourself at some point: if even you can disappoint yourself why be so hard on others when they disappoint you huh?!

17-I’ve learnt that gaining knowledge isn’t so much about acquiring new info as it is about making sense of what we already know.

18-Life has taught me that sometimes you have to be deaf to other people’s advice and go with your gut feeling: You either end up being fulfilled or end up learning from yo’Mistake. Either way its a win-win.

19-I’ve learnt that nothing beats loving someone and being loved in return. The only thing that comes close is to trust someone and be trusted in return.

20-I’ve learnt that no matter how much we learn in life, there’s always something new to learn everyday. Amazing isn’t it?!

Will be sharing more lessons as time goes by and iHope you learnt a thing or 2 from this. Until the next post, take care of you and remember, life is too short to learn the same lesson twice.
Toodles!

Cheers.
Q.B

Are Lawyers just a bunch of ‘pinnichios’ in suits ??

“Who is a Liar?” A person who tells lies…and “what amounts to a lie?” To deliver a false statement to another person which the speaking person knows is not the whole truth, intentionally…
Now besides the devil and notorious Pinocchio, who else comes to your mind when you hear “liars”…..a lawyer right?….iRemember an excursion we had to a law firm in my first year at school. It took us quite a while to meet the principal of the firm we visited, and as such we dint have enough time for Questions & Answers. We were told to ask just one Question, and the person that got picked said “Sir, is it true that lawyers are liars?” We all groaned and grumbled at how a law student could think of asking such a ridiculous question, matter of fact it sounded like a blasphemy to us *giggling*….the principal laughed really hard and then told the boy that its just an erroneous misconception.

A little while back(2weeks or so),i sent a broadcast to my blackberry messenger contacts asking if they think lawyers are liars. Lo and behold, it was almost a unanimous answer,in fact i could almost hear their voices screaming “Yesssss” in chorus. .80% said yes, and the minority that said no were of course lawyers + a few people that said “no” objectively.
For instance, Hadiza’s response was like “uhun, they are liars,it comes with the job description LOL, When your client tells you the truth about how he murdered someone,you can’t go tell the court he’s guilty right? So you tell emm its self defense or something”….Baffah was like “yes they lie a lot, they defend the accused person even though they know the truth, for the sake of their Career & Money I think.”

Its really funny that as much as people think lawyers are liars, they still hire them to protect or defend them in court and still praise them for a job well done LOL. iMean,how ironic is that.

Now, iKnow you’re waiting for me to tell you if lawyers are liars or not, but errm, I’m gonna try and explain how it all goes down(how lawyers operate i.e) and then when you’re done reading, you’ll draw up a conclusion yourself.

First of all, like all the professions out there, there are set of rules, guides and regulations that govern how lawyers defend their clients and how they prosecute a guilty person. There are also rules of professional conduct which frowns at lawyers lying, fraudulent activities,misappropriation (etc) in line of duty to their clients. A lot of lawyers that face the disciplinary committee get disbarred or have their honourable ‘SANship’ taken away from them.

Secondly, Lawyers make their cases, arguments and defence based on laid down laws and facts of each case. If there is no written or case law punishing or saying a particular act/omission is a crime or offence, then no one can be punished or held accountable for such an act or offence.
Likewise, if there is no written law that says a person is excused/permitted by law to do a particular act without which would amount to an offence(defence by law i.e), then no jupiter not to talk of a lawyer can help or save that person from being guilty of the accusation. Basically, everything a lawyers says in court MUST be backed by law.

Thirdly, (this is actually very important, and i think its the reason why many people mistake lawyers for liars) each offence has elements that makes a particular act an offence. Now if some/or all of these elements are missing then that person won’t be guilty of the offence he/she is accused of…at least not guilty before the court!(Mind you, judges are not magicians, no matter how glaring something looks to them, the judge works with facts and arguments before the court).

Let’s take murder for instance, which has been defined in Section 316 of the Nigerian Criminal Code as:
“Except as hereinafter set forth, a person who unlawfully kills another under any of the following circumstances that is to say:
(a) If the offender intends to cause the death of the person killed, or that of some other person.(Read Section 316 for the full definition)
In other words, Whoever intentionally causes the death of another person by unlawful harm is guilty of murder, and the elements that must be present before a person is said to be guilty of murder are
-Unlawful act
-killing (act of ceasing another human’s life)
-with malice aforethought (guilty mind)
And elements of guilty mind are
-Intent to kill.
-±Intent to inflict grievous bodily harm short of death.
The unlawful act and intent in this context is what is referred to as “actus reus and mensrea”, meaning guilty act and guilty mind. The guilty act here means the person’s action must be an offence under the law, and the guilty mind means the person committing the offence must have premeditated or planned the act (in case of murder,the intention must be to cause grievous bodily harm or death).
Now If either of these elements are missing, a person can’t be guilty of murder. At best, he/she is gonna be guilty of manslaughter(when intention is lacking). If someone has been accused of murder in court by the state prosecutor(or who ever), a lawyer would try his best to protect his client where he has a defence or where he is wrongly accused of an offence that hasn’t been proved. Same thing is applicable to proving so many other offences.

Let’s even take islamic law for instance, the offence of adultery can’t be successfully proved if the elements of proving the offence are not complete.
-4 people must have witnessed the actual act of penetration
-these 4 people must be honest and respectable people in the society.
Without any of these you can’t prove adultery in shariah court.
If you can’t prove it this way then the court won’t find the accused person guilty. Except if the accused person confesses!

Back to the murder instance, ask yourself this. . .”What if the person isn’t guilty of murder as defined by law? What if the person was set up? What if the person has a defence of Insanity, Alibi, or was actually trying to defend himself….Shouldn’t such a person be properly defended by his lawyer?”. The courts even prefer for a few guilty people to go scot free than have innocent people go to jail for crimes they are not guilty of. Probably, its the provisions of the law that some people are not comfortable with.

Personally, i don’t belong to the “generalising-school-of-thought”. Look at lying as human nature, being a lawyer, doctor, police etc shouldn’t be a tagging point. If you are a liar as a person, then you are a liar. It has nothing to do with your profession. Some doctors in private hospitals suggest operations for their customers, (oops, sorry patients iMean) knowing fully well there are drugs the patients could take and get cured, “for what reason?” You may ask, well, to generate money for their hospitals i guess(being private). This doesn’t mean all doctors operate that way. My point here is, there are liars everywhere, and I think its the same people that think lawyers are liars that also think doctors are murderers or thieves! *giggling*.

Most lawyers work really hard to see if there’s any provision of the law that protects or excuses their clients or grants them a right to a remedy and do anything “legally” possible to protect their client(within the law). If anything, credit should be given to lawyers instead of name-calling. Plus iReally do think its astonishing how a lot of people hate lawyers until they need one, and at that point they want the very best lawyer.

Now with a clean, fresh and unbiased mind, do you still think lawyers are liars?

Cheers.
Q.B

D.P.M.O

legallybee:

This is so hilarious =)) But iDont find guy’s habbbit No6 annoying…..and girls No1 habbit is so true + very annoying! Eiish! *giggling*

Originally posted on The Sarcastic Center:

Yo guys,

Always a pleasure to have you guys on here. Look ehn, I’m not even going to pretend like I have a planned out post for you guys. My brain has taken a forceful break and I can’t seem to kick-start it. Anyway, I was reading through realbuzz magazine the other day and came across an article listing 7 things guys dislike that girls do and vice versa. I think I’m going to just list them out here and leave the stage for you guys to agree, disagree and more importantly add yours to the list.

Let’s start with the guys:

Things guys do that annoy girls:

Annoying male habit 1: Adjusting our private parts: I can’t even explain the origin of this ancient technique nor state why some of us men enjoy handling our member especially in public. Maybe it’s for security purposes; you know checking to see…

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Let’s talk about Jeans…

You know what they say about a lion being king of the jungle, when it comes to our clothes, its very safe to say Jeans/Denims rule the wardrobe, cause its very hard to find someone who doesn’t have at least one pair of jeans in his/her wardrobe. If you are a huge fan of jeans like me, then wearing the right jeans for your body shape is essential. For the best results choose well fitting jeans that will complement your figure and body shape/type.

I know a lot of us are suckers for price tag and label, but pfft, its not by that, no matter the label or how expensive your denim is, if it doesn’t fit or complement your body shape, like it or not, it would just be an expensive garbage in your wardrobe.

There’s no hard and fast rule about the suggestions bellow, but there’s a 90% chance of finding the appropriate jeans for your body type if you allow your body shape guide you in getting a denim. Just scroll down to your body type and check out the guiding tips.

(If you don’t know your body type, click here)

For Women:

1) Jeans styles for Apples shaped Women.

-Buy jeans that have a flat front and with a rise that is lower than your natural waist, avoid tucks and button up jeans as they will add bulk onto your tummy area.
-Boot cut jeans can be an excellent choice as the wider leg can draw the eye down from the waist and create a balanced look.
-Apples can have the pick when it comes to denim jean colours! Choosing jeans that are of lighter shades are great as they will add shape to your thighs.
-Avoid low rise as it will add bulk to your luscious hips

2)Jeans Styles for Pear Shaped Women.

-Pears usually get frustrated when trying on jeans. 
-A high-waisted jean is key for pear shapes, as it will cinch you in and draw the eye towards your small waist.
-Avoid light, paler and ‘washed look’ jeans that may have the worn look around the upper leg and body section as this will draw the eye to this area. Choose darker shades of denim that will give more of a slimming effect.
-Jeans with fading below the knee can also work well for you.
-The shape and cut of the jeans is important and the golden rule is to reduce the emphasis from your hips, thigh area and butt.
-Hipster jeans will help you avoid that gaping waist scenario while low-rise jeans can make your bottom look smaller.
-The pockets at the back of your jeans can create an appearance of enlarging the bottom area and more so if there is detail on back pockets such as beading, embroidery or lacing. Pocket size and design should be either kept to a minimum.
-Avoid skinny jeans

3) Jeans Styles for Hourglass Shaped Women:

-Hourglass figures should ideally wear jeans that have a smaller cut waist, this will help you achieve that beautifully fitted look from waist to hips.
-With fitting in mind stretch denim jeans can be the perfect choice and will give you movement and comfort for your shapely figure without having a bulky or tight look.
-To balance out your hips choose jeans that have a slightly flared, wide leg or boot cut. Tailored jeans can make your legs appear longer and lift your bottom especially if worn with heals.
-Stay away from belts or detailing such as pockets around the hips or bum, it will just add bulk.
-If your one of the cuddlier hour glasses out there opt for darker colour jeans, they will slim you down.

4)Jeans for Boyish Shaped Women

-You really shouldn’t have any problems with jeans, with your slim hips, any kind of jeans look good on you.
But
-Low rise jeans with wide waistbands (preferable of thicker material) that fall on the fullest part of your hips will add a few centimeters.
-Detailing on the hips and bum will also help to broaden those slender hips.
-Beware of jeans that sit on your waist they just show off the fact that there is not much of a waist there.
-Always try and opt for low rise jeans and add a belt to accessorize which will add width to your hips.
-The darker jeans are obviously we all know the more slimming they are. Luckily for you you’ve been blessed with a slender frame and can get away with wearing any colour of jeans teamed up with jut about anything.
-Finding the right pair of jeans that fit perfectly is a very hard thing to come across if you do find a pair some where why not buy them in every colour!?

Men’s body types

1) The Trapezoid

-Basically, you can almost wear whatever you want, this is the easiest shape to dress since you’re naturally in proportion and have nothing to balance or hide, so to speak.
-Avoid boxy jeans. Trapezoids tend to be slim, so boxy fits look awful.
-Be careful when choosing fitted jeans that they are not too tight, you want to avoid bulk.
-You need to be searching for the best fitted waits-line. You shouldn’t need a belt to hold them up, if you do its time to go shopping for a new pair.
-You don’t really need to worry about colour as any colour suits your body.

2) Rectangle men

Making your body seem like it has a little shape to it can prove quite difficult if you are a rectangular shaped man however finding the right pair of jeans can give your body that shape that it lacks.
-Go for the skinny jean. If you’re a skinny rectangle, you are the only body shape that actually has express permission to wear skinny jeans.
-Jeans that taper in at the ankle make legs and bottom halves in general appear slimmer thus emphasizing the top half in a positive way. Especially if you’re wearing a light coloured T-shirt.
-If the skinny jean is just not for you then try a carrot fit, they have all the space of a straight fit but like the skinny taper in at the ankle, giving you that trapezoid shape.
-Dont ‘untuck’ your shirt. In fact, NEVER ‘untuck’ your shirt if you’re a Rectangle, it will just emphasize your straight up and down shape. ALWAYS tuck in your shirt. A tucked in shirt will emphasise even the slightest V-shape in your torso, and just look better.
-Do Not Wear wide leg jeans. You’ve got the permission to wear a skinny jean, use it. A wide leg or bootcut jean will make your bottom half appear wider again and only serve to accentuate a Rectangle and maybe even give the illusion of an Upright Triangle shape.
-Darker denims will enhance your slim figure, avoid the lighter colour jeans or it may give you that ‘lanky’ look.

3) Jeans for an Inverted Triangle Shaped Man ▼

-The aim here is to find the right pair of jean that balances out your large muscular shoulders.
-Use wider leg jeans(boot-cut or flare) to create balance with your large broad shoulders, although skinny jeans are by no means off limits as long as the top half is just as tapered (and stay away from black denim, this will only serve to diminish an already small bottom half)
-Avoid wearing all one colour like the plague. ESPECIALLY BLACK. Believe me, if you do this and at yourself in the mirror, Jack Skellington will be staring right back at you LOL. Same goes for vertical stripes.
-Opt for the lighter & paler colours, a little wiskering on the top of the front of the jean will make the hips appear wider and give you that balanced look we are aiming for. Avoid the darker denims as these will make your legs look slimmer and will enhance the size the broad shoulders.

4) Jeans for Triangular Shaped Men

-Look for dark denim: Anything dark is slimming
-With your bottom half being larger than your top half you should opt for jeans that make your hips and bottom appear slimmer.
-Jeans with a little flare are a good option as they can help hide large thighs and balance out larger hips. The fastenings on the jeans should be nice and neat to avoid any extra bulking with belt.
-You don’t get the pick of the lot when it comes to the colour of the jean, you should opt for darker denims and avoid light washed look jeans. If you do want a pair of jeans with a little fading it should be below the knee as anything higher will draw attention to your hips. Darker blues, greys, blacks and browns are the colour to go for they will give you a slimming affect and they still have that classic denim jean style.

5) Oval

-Having a heavy-set body means you should avoid boot cut and straight leg jeans as the flare of the jean will make you appear bigger than your size.
-Opt for a wide leg pair of jeans with larger pockets on the bottom as this will make the size of the bottom look smaller. Wide leg jeans will hide access weight and any lumps or bumps.
-Avoid tucks or button up jeans as this will add bulk to your stomach area.
-Wear low rise trousers and jeans: Low rise jeans will sit on the hips as opposed to the waist. Decreasing the distance between the waistband and the crotch, making your midsection appear smaller in general and giving the illusion of a longer, slimmer body.
-Always make sure your trousers or jeans fit comfortably around your midsection.
 

Next time you want to buy a pair of jeans, don’t let what your friends are wearing or some house-to-house sales-person make you buy the wrong pair. Having the right pair of jeans is an asset to your wardrobe so allow your body shape be a guiding compass to getting the appropriate one.

Keep calm & Get the right pair of Jeans.

Toodles!

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