Dear D̷i̷a̷r̷y̷ Journal: Dust of 2016. Dawn of 2017.

December 31, 2016.

Monumental things can happen in a year, and a lot of monumental things have happened to us all in 2016.

A lot of folks squeal, “the year has been bad/crazy” and what not. Yeah iKnow some of it has been all that but c’mon, not the whole of it. It would totally be ungrateful of anyone to pinpoint the negative alone and overlook the gratifying side of the year. 

 2016 has been such an amazing, striving, adventurous & trying but yet a rewarding rollercoaster ride, don’t you think so?! Some events were surprising, others were fulfilling as set-goals were reached & achievements were made while others were unplanned or a surprising lot. 

Through it all, some things doubled up to give 2 results. While some of our sources of felicitation & comfort turned out to be the same source of immense twinge & distress for us. There’s surely been some setbacks & hitches that turned out to be breakthroughs & positive-turning-points for us as well. Isn’t it ironic?! Oh well, that’s life for you.

Anyway, there’s been achievements, immense trials, breathtaking experiences plus tearful/sober phases through out the year. And no you are not alone in this, we are all in it together (even though we are on different sides of life/the-planet).

But in the grand scheme of things, if the downsides of 2016 dint bring out the worst of you, if things that were meant to make you bitter made you better, if your failures dint make you give up on your abilities, if things that broke you down brought you breakthroughs, if your hurt dint transform you into to a revengeful backlasher, if the things you feared made you stronger in God’s faith and if your life’s lessons made you wiser, plus if your achievements/gains/position dint make you proud or look down on others, then my darling, you are not a victim of 2016, you are going into 2017 a victor. 

If you achieved a lot of positive things in 2016, don’t get comfy, achieve more in 2017.

If you loved real good in 2016, love even better in 2017.

If you failed badly in 2016, dust yourself up and try again in 2017. 

If you were selfless in 2016, give out more in 2017.

If you sucked at something in 2016, it’s alright, learn to perfect it in 2017.

Don’t let the negative experiences of 2016 make you bitter, be better and do better in 2017.

Look back at 2016 and thank God.

Look ahead in 2017 and trust God.

Look around you right now & praise God for everything. 
PS, Life is too short to be hard on yourself or hard on others. 

PPS, Let’s always maintain the gratitude attitude. The more thankful we are, the more ‘more’ would be given to us. 

PPPS, Have a delightful 2017.


30 things to start doing for yourself: Living a meaningful and positive life. 

You know how the flight attendant always tells you to put your own oxygen mask before you assist others? Well, it is also sorta kinda like that when it comes to handling yourself in your daily life.  Take care of your wellbeing first and you will be able to take care of others even better. 

AnyhoOo, here’s a lil motivational something-something to practice doing for yourself…

1: Start spending time with the right people. 

– These are the people you enjoy, who love and appreciate you, and who encourage you to improve in healthy and exciting ways. They are the ones who make you feel more alive, and not only embrace who you are now, but also embrace and embody who you want to be, unconditionally.
2: Start facing your problems head on.

 – It isn’t your problems that define you, but how you react to them and recover from them. Problems will not disappear unless you take action. Do what you can, when you can, and acknowledge what you’ve done. It’s all about taking baby steps in the right direction, inch by inch. These inches count, they add up to yards and miles in the long run.

3: Start being honest with yourself about everything.

 – Be honest about what’s right, as well as what needs to be changed. Be honest about what you want to achieve and who you want to become. Be honest with every aspect of your life, always. Because you are the one person you can forever count on. Search your soul, for the truth, so that you truly know who you are. Once you do, you’ll have a better understanding of where you are now and how you got here, and you’ll be better equipped to identify where you want to go and how to get there.

4: Start making your own happiness a priority. 

– Your needs matter. If you don’t value yourself, look out for yourself, and stick up for yourself, you’re sabotaging yourself. Remember, it IS possible to take care of your own needs while simultaneously caring for those around you. And once your needs are met, you will likely be far more capable of helping those who need you most. (Angel and I discuss this in detail in the “Self-Love” chapter of 1,000 Little Things Happy, Successful People Do Differently.)

5: Start being yourself, genuinely and proudly. 

– Trying to be anyone else is a waste of the person you are. Be yourself. Embrace that individual inside you that has ideas, strengths and beauty like no one else. Be the person you know yourself to be – the best version of you – on your terms. Above all, be true to YOU, and if you cannot put your heart in it, take yourself out of it.

6: Start noticing and living in the present. 

– Right now is a miracle. Right now is the only moment guaranteed to you. Right now is life. So stop thinking about how great things will be in the future. Stop dwelling on what did or didn’t happen in the past. Learn to be in the ‘here and now’ and experience life as it’s happening. Appreciate the world for the beauty that it holds, right now.

7: Start valuing the lessons your mistakes teach you.

 – Mistakes are okay; they’re the stepping stones of progress. If you’re not failing from time to time, you’re not trying hard enough and you’re not learning. Take risks, stumble, fall, and then get up and try again. Appreciate that you are pushing yourself, learning, growing and improving. Significant achievements are almost invariably realized at the end of a long road of failures. One of the ‘mistakes’ you fear might just be the link to your greatest achievement yet.

8: Start being more polite to yourself. 

– If you had a friend who spoke to you in the same way that you sometimes speak to yourself, how long would you allow that person to be your friend? The way you treat yourself sets the standard for others. You must love who you are or no one else will.

9: Start enjoying the things you already have. 

– The problem with many of us is that we think we’ll be happy when we reach a certain level in life – a level we see others operating at – your boss with her corner office, that friend of a friend who owns a mansion on the beach, etc. Unfortunately, it takes awhile before you get there, and when you get there you’ll likely have a new destination in mind. You’ll end up spending your whole life working toward something new without ever stopping to enjoy the things you have now. So take a quiet moment every morning when you first awake to appreciate where you are and what you already have.

10: Start creating your own happiness.

 – If you are waiting for someone else to make you happy, you’re missing out. Smile because you can. Choose happiness. Be the change you want to see in the world. Be happy with who you are now, and let your positivity inspire your journey into tomorrow. Happiness is often found when and where you decide to seek it. If you look for happiness within the opportunities you have, you will eventually find it. But if you constantly look for something else, unfortunately, you’ll find that too. (Read Stumbling on Happiness.)

11: Start giving your ideas and dreams a chance. 

– In life, it’s rarely about getting a chance; it’s about taking a chance. You’ll never be 100% sure it will work, but you can always be 100% sure doing nothing won’t work. Most of the time you just have to go for it! And no matter how it turns out, it always ends up just the way it should be. Either you succeed or you learn something. Win-Win.

12: Start believing that you’re ready for the next step. 

– You are ready! Think about it. You have everything you need right now to take the next small, realistic step forward. So embrace the opportunities that come your way, and accept the challenges – they’re gifts that will help you to grow.

13: Start entering new relationships for the right reasons. 

– Enter new relationships with dependable, honest people who reflect the person you are and the person you want to be. Choose friends you are proud to know, people you admire, who show you love and respect – people who reciprocate your kindness and commitment. And pay attention to what people do, because a person’s actions are much more important than their words or how others represent them.

14: Start giving new people you meet a chance. 

– It sounds harsh, but you cannot keep every friend you’ve ever made. People and priorities change. As some relationships fade others will grow. Appreciate the possibility of new relationships as you naturally let go of old ones that no longer work. Trust your judgment. Embrace new relationships, knowing that you are entering into unfamiliar territory. Be ready to learn, be ready for a challenge, and be ready to meet someone that might just change your life forever.

15: Start competing against an earlier version of yourself.

 – Be inspired by others, appreciate others, learn from others, but know that competing against them is a waste of time. You are in competition with one person and one person only – yourself. You are competing to be the best you can be. Aim to break your own personal records. (Read The Road Less Traveled.)

16: Start cheering for other people’s victories. 

– Start noticing what you like about others and tell them. Having an appreciation for how amazing the people around you are leads to good places – productive, fulfilling, peaceful places. So be happy for those who are making progress. Cheer for their victories. Be thankful for their blessings, openly. What goes around comes around, and sooner or later the people you’re cheering for will start cheering for you.

17: Start looking for the silver lining in tough situations.

 – When things are hard, and you feel down, take a few deep breaths and look for the silver lining – the small glimmers of hope. Remind yourself that you can and will grow stronger from these hard times. And remain conscious of your blessings and victories – all the things in your life that are right. Focus on what you have, not on what you haven’t.

18: Start forgiving yourself and others. 

– We’ve all been hurt by our own decisions and by others. And while the pain of these experiences is normal, sometimes it lingers for too long. We relive the pain over and over and have a hard time letting go. Forgiveness is the remedy. It doesn’t mean you’re erasing the past, or forgetting what happened. It means you’re letting go of the resentment and pain, and instead choosing to learn from the incident and move on with your life.

19: Start helping those around you.

 – Care about people. Guide them if you know a better way. The more you help others, the more they will want to help you. Love and kindness begets love and kindness. And so on and so forth.

20: Start listening to your own inner voice. 

– If it helps, discuss your ideas with those closest to you, but give yourself enough room to follow your own intuition. Be true to yourself. Say what you need to say. Do what you know in your heart is right.

21: Start being attentive to your stress level and take short breaks.

 – Slow down. Breathe. Give yourself permission to pause, regroup and move forward with clarity and purpose. When you’re at your busiest, a brief recess can rejuvenate your mind and increase your productivity. These short breaks will help you regain your sanity and reflect on your recent actions so you can be sure they’re in line with your goals.

22: Start noticing the beauty of small moments. 

– Instead of waiting for the big things to happen – marriage, kids, big promotion, winning the lottery – find happiness in the small things that happen every day. Little things like having a quiet cup of coffee in the early morning, or the delicious taste and smell of a homemade meal, or the pleasure of sharing something you enjoy with someone else, or holding hands with your partner. Noticing these small pleasures on a daily basis makes a big difference in the quality of your life. 
23: Start accepting things when they are less than perfect

– Remember, ‘perfect’ is the enemy of ‘good.’ One of the biggest challenges for people who want to improve themselves and improve the world is learning to accept things as they are. Sometimes it’s better to accept and appreciate the world as it is, and people as they are, rather than to trying to make everything and everyone conform to an impossible ideal. No, you shouldn’t accept a life of mediocrity, but learn to love and value things when they are less than perfect.

24: Start working toward your goals every single day.

 – Remember, the journey of a thousand miles begins with one step. Whatever it is you dream about, start taking small, logical steps every day to make it happen. Get out there and DO something! The harder you work the luckier you will become. While many of us decide at some point during the course of our lives that we want to answer our calling, only an astute few of us actually work on it. By ‘working on it,’ I mean consistently devoting oneself to the end result. (Read The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People.)

25: Start being more open about how you feel. 

– If you’re hurting, give yourself the necessary space and time to hurt, but be open about it. Talk to those closest to you. Tell them the truth about how you feel. Let them listen. The simple act of getting things off your chest and into the open is your first step toward feeling good again.

26: Start taking full accountability for your own life.

 – Own your choices and mistakes, and be willing to take the necessary steps to improve upon them. Either you take accountability for your life or someone else will. And when they do, you’ll become a slave to their ideas and dreams instead of a pioneer of your own. You are the only one who can directly control the outcome of your life. And no, it won’t always be easy. Every person has a stack of obstacles in front of them. But you must take accountability for your situation and overcome these obstacles. Choosing not to is choosing a lifetime of mere existence.

27: Start actively nurturing your most important relationships. 

– Bring real, honest joy into your life and the lives of those you love by simply telling them how much they mean to you on a regular basis. You can’t be everything to everyone, but you can be everything to a few people. Decide who these people are in your life and treat them like royalty. Remember, you don’t need a certain number of friends, just a number of friends you can be certain of.

28: Start concentrating on the things you can control. 

– You can’t change everything, but you can always change something. Wasting your time, talent and emotional energy on things that are beyond your control is a recipe for frustration, misery and stagnation. Invest your energy in the things you can control, and act on them now.

29: Start focusing on the possibility of positive outcomes. 

– The mind must believe it CAN do something before it is capable of actually doing it. The way to overcome negative thoughts and destructive emotions is to develop opposing, positive emotions that are stronger and more powerful. Listen to your self-talk and replace negative thoughts with positive ones. Regardless of how a situation seems, focus on what you DO WANT to happen, and then take the next positive step forward. No, you can’t control everything that happens to you, but you can control how you react to things. Everyone’s life has positive and negative aspects – whether or not you’re happy and successful in the long run depends greatly on which aspects you focus on. (Read The How of Happiness.)

30: Start noticing how wealthy you are right now. 

– Henry David Thoreau once said, “Wealth is the ability to fully experience life.” Even when times are tough, it’s always important to keep things in perspective. You didn’t go to sleep hungry last night. You didn’t go to sleep outside. You had a choice of what clothes to wear this morning. You hardly broke a sweat today. You didn’t spend a minute in fear. You have access to clean drinking water. You have access to medical care. You have access to the Internet. You can read. Some might say you are incredibly wealthy, so remember to be grateful for all the things you do have.

Ps, stay motivated and prolific. 


Intro by Bee-dazzled 

List Via – Marc and Angel

What killed the frog? :: Theory of the boiling frog


– When you put a frog in a vessel of water and start heating the water…
– And the temperature of the water rises, the frog is able to adjust its body temperature accordingly…
– The frog keeps on adjusting with increase in temperature…
– Just when the water is about to reach boiling point, the frog is not able to adjust anymore…
– At that point the frog decides to jump out…
– The frog tries to jump but is unable to do so, because it lost all its strength in adjusting with the water temperature…
– Very soon the frog dies. What killed the frog?
Many of us would say the boiling water…But the truth is what killed the frog was its own inability to decide when it had to jump out…
We all need to adjust with people and situations, but we need to be sure when we need to adjust and when we need to confront / face or even consciously move out/ on…
There are times when we need to face the situation and take the appropriate action…Fight it & do it with all your honestly, sincerity and full force.
On the other side, if you are 110% sure that environment is beyond control or the objective is not providing adequate incentive…leave your ego, quit and move on to more productive cause in life.
Not only this will avoid your unnecessary suffering, this make you a better and balanced leader of your life and task in hand.
Life is too short to stay in a ‘boiling-pot’ and not jump out.

13 Packing Hacks That Will Change Your Life #WanderlustDiaries 

Whether you’re going home for the holidays or taking a much-needed vacation, there is travel—and thus the ever-daunting task of packing—in your future.
Because every last inch of suitcase real estate counts, and you don’t want to wrinkle your sweaters, break a precious bottle of Chanel No. 5, or worst case scenario: lose your bag at the airport, it’s time to streamline/safeguard your approach.
1. Roll, don’t fold clothes


It’s faster and will maximize your space! Reserve the classic layer cake fold for more delicate or wrinkle-prone fabrics.​
2. Stack your bras

Save space while helping your bras maintain their shape by stacking them on on top of each other. You can even store you underwear inside of the cups.
3. Cover your footwear with shoe bags or shower caps

“You never want dirty shoes touching your clothes,” says Bromstad, adding that the smell can transfer as well. Keep dirty shoes from mucking things up by placing them in shoes bags or shower caps, which are available at most hotels.
4. Pack two tops for every bottom

You’re more likely to re-wear a pair of bottoms, then a top. So to avoid overpacking, stick to this rule: pack two different tops (perhaps a blouse and a sweater) for every bottom. As far as bottoms go, Bromstad believes you should always have light and dark wash denim options.
5. Pack your clothes inside out

Another way to avoid wrinkles as well as prevent stains, is to pack your light colored clothes inside out. That way if theres any debris, your whites and pastels are safe.

​6. Pack the heaviest items closest to the wheels


Particularly when you’re dealing with rolling luggage, you have to consider how your items will respond to motion. One important rule of thumb is to keep all the heavy items stored towards the wheels so weight is distributed evenly.
7. Stick dryer sheets in your suitcase


“For that out of the laundry freshness, pack some dryer sheets in the bottom and top of your luggage,” advises Bromstad. “It keeps your clothes smelling clean.” A few sheets of Bounce is all you need.
8. Put your toiletries in a transparent bag

Keep your toiletries and makeup in a see-through pouch. It will not only keep things confined in case of a leak, but you’ll be able to see everything in one place, without digging through/mussing up your suitcase.
9. Put loose wires in a sunglasses case

To avoid messy tangles with your various wires, roll them up tightly and throw them in a sunglasses case, which is easy to open/close and won’t allow them to move around on the go. You can also do the same with jewelry.
10. Put breakables in socks​

When it comes to breakables, like a glass perfume bottle, take extra precaution by slipping it into a sock. This will also prevent it from scratching or catching on anything.

11. Capitalize on empty space


Every nook and cranny counts! So look for underutilized space, like the insides of shoes, for small essentials like headphones or change purses
12. Pack an empty tote for laundry

You might need a carry-all for a day trip or a bag to organize/isolate your laundry for the trip home.
13. Choose a practical suitcase with standout details

Losing your luggage is the ultimate packing pitfall, and it’s all the more likely when your suitcase blends in with thousands of others. Brand your bag with unique name tags or opt for a style in a bright color or print. Remember: it’s an extension of your personal style.
“Your luggage is a reflection of yourself so they should be stylish, practical, lightweight, and most definitely durable,” says Bromstad.

Via- Marie Clair’s post on The Cosmopolitan

Get more tips for ladies travel packing here 👉 Cosmopolitan

Milk of Magnesia : the ‘holy grail’ of all primers



**Strictly for the shiny sisters😃 and by shiny iMean oily face😉.
There’s nothing wrong with having a shiny face, it totally has positive sides and all but when it comes to using makeup, it utterly isn’t fun because the makeup melts down a few hours after application and leaves u looking like a drag-Queen.

Now in a bid to quest for a proper primer that gives a matte-look, i tried ELF’s Mineral Infused Face Primer but the only thing it did was make my foundation look flawless and smooth but it did not stop the shine.

Got a hold of MAC’s PREP+PRIME Natural Radiance Base Lumière and it also gave my foundation a smooth setting but it did not do the trick iHoped for. Don’t get me wrong, these primers might work for people with normal skin or even ladies with shiny skin that live in a cold region , but as for tropical regions? Nope, they don’t do justice to the shine at all. 
Recently, a make up artist (MUA) looked at me and was like “iHave something for you, something you’d love to use for your shine”. That’s when she said iShould get Milk of Magnasia(MOM).
I went to a drug store the next day and got the MOM (which is originally used for constipation LOL). Tried it the next day and iWas like OH-My-Frigging-Gosh… A matte-look finally. I went the whole day with it and iDint have any shine, iEven had a nap and still no shine… It was a shine free matte-full day :D. It is totally a game changer for me!

There are two ways to use this:
1. Apply MOM as a face mask to the skin and leave for 15 minutes then rinse off and apply your makeup. 
**Depending on your skin and type you may need to do this only a few times a week.
2. Shake the bottle of your MOM and apply to your face after your moisturizer and then apply foundation over it. YES you will have a very white face but the foundation will completely cover it and NO – you will not get flash back. And with MOM, you only need to apply half of the normal quantity of foundation you normally use (but hey, it’s not a hard and fast rule, you could still do what works best for you).


-Use a mist spray (like MAC fix +) on your foundation brush or beauty blender as well before you begin your foundation routine and the rest of your makeup.

-You could mix MOM with water in a spray bottle works wonder.
NOTE: This tip is really for those with oily, very oily and combination skin. Dry skin types will hate this as it will feel like a clay mask and draw out all the moisture from your skin.
**Magnesium also has healing properties so its calming to most skin types.
How it works:

Magnesium salt is an osmotic laxative meaning it absorbs things. On your shiny skin, the salt sucks up the oil produced. But, if you apply too much it can definitely do this to your skin, pulling water out of it (yes, really), drying out your skin.

Say bye to splotchy makeup and aloha to a Shine free made up face :D.

Check out the vid’s about MOM below–7AoJX5s


Some people believe that MOM isn’t good for the skin because it alters the PH balance of your face, but out of everything I’ve read on that, there’s nothing convincing enough for me to believe it is harmful for people with genuine shiny face.  
You could speak to your dermatologist to be more safe 🙂 

10 things you don’t need to be happy.


They say a person needs just three things to be truly happy in this world: someone(people) to love, something to do, and something to hope for. I don’t think anything could be closer to the truth, and yet all too often we find ways of complicating things for ourselves. We look for happiness where it does not exist – in shallow goals and desires – in possessions, quick thrills, and impressing the wrong people….

…. there are many other sources of true happiness as well. But as I’ve said, there are also lots of common traps – goals and desires that we think will bring us happiness, but actually do the exact opposite. Recognizing these traps is the key. In fact, I believe one of the best feelings comes when you realize that you can be perfectly happy without the things you once thought you needed.

With this in mind, consider the ten goals and desires (traps) below and how they may be holding you back. Each of them is popular in our culture, and thus common in our lives, but rather than contributing to our happiness, they rob us of it.
So say it out loud with me:
“To be happier, I do NOT need…”


1: To please everyone – Be careful not to give so much of yourself to others that you end up completely losing yourself. When you go around pleasing everyone but yourself, you are the one that gets hurt in the end. The late and great Herbert Bayard Swope said it like this: “I don’t know the key to success, but the key to failure is trying to please everybody.” That is spot on advice if you ask me. Because truthfully, you are never going to please everyone anyway. At some point you will hold an unpopular opinion – one that gives you meaning and makes you feel alive. And when you do, you ought to hold on tight, tune out the noise, and make it count.

2: Everything to be easy – You have to do hard things to be happy in life. The things no one else is doing. The things that frighten you. The things others can’t do for you. The things that make you question how much longer you can hold on and push forward. Because those are the things that define you. Those are the things that make the difference between existing and living – between knowing the path and walking the path – between a life of mediocrity and a life filled with happiness and success.

3: Certainty and guarantees – Some people build too many walls in their lives and not enough bridges. It sounds crazy, but they would rather be certain they’re miserable, than risk being happy. Don’t be one of them. Open yourself up. Take chances. Run free. To accomplish amazing things, you must not only act, but also dream, not only plan, but also believe. Be a dreamer, a believer, and a courageous and cheerful thinker. Be a positive motivator, a productive doer, and a go-getter who keeps her head in the clouds and her feet on the ground. Let the spirit of passion and possibility ignite a fire within you to do something worthwhile today and every day, and don’t forget to spread your enthusiasm to those around you. (Read Daring Greatly.)

4: To be better than others – The size of our universe shrinks dramatically when we place ourselves at the center – when we think everyone is our competition – when we think we have to be richer, smarter, and more attractive than the person sitting next to us. Such a goal just keeps a person alienated and tirelessly running in place. Now, on the flipside, take someone who doesn’t keep score, who’s not looking to be richer, or smarter, or more attractive, who has not the slightest interest even in being better than anyone else: she’s free. Bottom line: Compete with yourself only.

5: More control over everything and everyone – Sometimes we put too much interest into trying to control every tiny aspect of our lives. Learn to relax and ride the path that life takes you sometimes. Incredible change will happen in your life when you decide to take control of what you do have power over instead of craving control over what you do not. Freeing yourself from trying to control the insignificant and uncontrollable things lets you experience more of the goodness around you. In fact, the greatest joys are often the unexpected surprises that arrive when you are flexible and open to life’s twists and turns.

6: Immense moments of glory – Graduations, wedding days, lavish vacations – these times are often fun-filled and deeply celebrated, but these times pass, because time passes. This is something we rarely grasp at first. True, lasting happiness is found in the appreciation of all the small things. For me, there are random moments – tossing a salad, coming up the driveway to our home, ironing the seams flat on a dress shirt, standing at the kitchen window and looking out at the sun rising over the Austin skyline, hearing a giggle from my son who’s playing in the other room – when I feel a wavelike rush of joy. This is my true happiness: arbitrary moments of sudden, throbbing appreciation for a life I feel privileged to lead. (Angel and I discuss this in more detail in the “Simplicity” chapter of 1,000 Little Things Happy, Successful People Do Differently.)

7: Relationships that are “supposed to” provide happiness – Relationships are essential, but happiness originates from within. It is not dependent on external validation or on other people. You become vulnerable and can be easily hurt when your feelings of security and happiness depend entirely on the behavior and actions of others. Keep this in mind. Never give all your power to anyone else. Until you make complete peace with who you are, you’ll never be content with what you have or who you’re with. Learn to love and respect yourself first, before loving the idea of other people loving and respecting you.

8: Perfect harmony in all relationships at all times – Harmony in relationships is nice when it’s sincere, but too often we try to fake it. Effective communication is king. You have to talk it out sometimes. After all, the only way to be happy in life is to live with integrity. This means: Not settling for less than what you know you deserve in your relationships. Being clear and asking for what you want and need from others. Speaking your truth, even though it might create occasional tension. Behaving in ways that are in agreement with your personal values. Making choices based on what you believe, and not just what others believe. (Read The Mastery of Love.)

9: A superior time and place – The reason many people find it so hard to be happy is that they always see the past better than it was, the present worse than it is, and the future less resolved than it will be. The key, of course, is to do the opposite. Appreciate your past without reliving it, handle your present with confidence, and face your future without fear. Life is simply too short to spend at war with yourself. Letting go of the past and future is your first step to happiness and peace in the present. Realize that you are today where your thoughts and actions have brought you; you will be tomorrow where your thoughts and actions today take you. Bottom line: You can’t stop the future. You can’t rewind the past. The only way to live is to press play, and dance.

10: Happiness 24/7 – Absolutely no one is happy all of the time. Because you simply can’t be happy unless you’re unhappy sometimes. This is a harsh truth, I know. Just keep in mind that it’s perfectly normal to experience considerable fluctuations in your level of happiness from day to day, month to month, and even year to year. Believing and expecting otherwise will only lead to disillusionment. But even when life is less than blissful, you are still in charge of how you respond. Choose positivity, always. The greatest act of faith some days is to simply get up and face the day, with a smile.


And let me leave you with this to think about: According to a recent scientific study published in the Journal of Research in Personality, overall levels of happiness decline from one’s teens until one’s 40s and then pick up again until they peak in one’s early 70s. So the chances are that your happiest days are yet to come. Hopefully that gives you something to smile about today.
Just keep doing your best by taking life moment by moment, complaining very little, and being grateful for the little things that mean a lot.

Your turn…
 So, which of the points in this post do you resonate with the most? What do you sometimes forget you do NOT need to be happier in life? Leave a comment below and share your thoughts and insights.

(curled via Marc & Angel ) 

The Pencil Parable.

The Parable Of The Pencil


In the beginning, the pencil Manufacturer spoke to the pencil saying “there are five things you need to know before I send you into the world, so always remember them and you will become the best pencil you can be”

1. You’ll be able to do many great things, but only if you allow yourself to be held in someone’s hand.


2. Occasionally you will have the painful experience of being pulled and sharpened,  but this is required if you are going to be a better pencil.

3. You have the ability to correct any mistake you make.


4. The most important part of you will always be inside.
5. No matter what the condition is, you must continue your writing. You always drop a clear and legible mark no matter how difficult the situation.

The pencil understood, promising to remember, and went into the box fully understanding the purpose of the Manufacturer.


Now, the thing is to replace the pencil with your person.

-Always remember the lessons and never forget, and you will become the best person you can.

1.You will be able to do many great things, but only if you allow God’s hand to uphold you and direct you , and allow other human beings to access you for the many gifts that you possess.


2. Occasionally you will experience a painful polishing, passing through various problems, but you will become a stronger person and complete.


3. You will be able to correct the mistakes you’ve made and grow through them.


4. The most important part of you is what is inside you.
5. On every surface you walk, you must leave your footprint, no matter what the situation, you must continue to serve God in everything.


Everyone is like a pencil, created by the Maker for a unique and special purpose.
By understanding and remembering all this, let us proceed with our life on earth having a meaningful purpose in our heart and a relationship with God daily.


We were all made to do great things.

P.s , this “Parable of the pencil” was one of the parting gifts iGot from Tutu Sholeye, the iron lady and tutor of life 💕…and I couldn’t resist sharing it with you.

Life is too short to do anything but live a positive life of purpose.

12 things that happy people do.


Compliments of the 7th week of 2015 🙂 . Hope the year has been good to you. Either way, here’s a Quick Q: Are you a happy person? whether your answer is yes, no, or maybe, reading the dozen of things happy people do would be rewarding. Now carry on 😀

“” Here are a dozen things that any of us — at any age or stage of life — can start doing today to feel the effects of more happiness in our lives.

1. Express gratitude. — When you appreciate what you have, what you have appreciates in value. Kinda cool right? So basically, being grateful for the goodness that is already evident in your life will bring you a deeper sense of happiness. And that’s without having to go out and buy anything. It makes sense. We’re gonna have a hard time ever being happy if we aren’t thankful for what we already have.

2. Cultivate optimism. — Winners have the ability to manufacture their own optimism. No matter what the situation, the successful diva is the chick who will always find a way to put an optimistic spin on it. She knows failure only as an opportunity to grow and learn a new lesson from life. People who think optimistically see the world as a place packed with endless opportunities, especially in trying times.

3. Avoid over-thinking and social comparison. — Comparing yourself to someone else can be poisonous. If we’re somehow “better” than the person that we’re comparing ourselves to, it gives us an unhealthy sense of superiority. Our ego inflates — KABOOM — our inner Kanye West comes out! If we’re “worse” than the person that we’re comparing ourselves to, we usually discredit the hard work that we’ve done and dismiss all the progress that we’ve made. What I’ve found is that the majority of the time this type of social comparison doesn’t stem from a healthy place. If you feel called to compare yourself to something, compare yourself to an earlier version of yourself.

4. Practice acts of kindness. — Performing an act of kindness releases serotonin in your brain. (Serotonin is a substance that has TREMENDOUS health benefits, including making us feel more blissful.) Selflessly helping someone is a super powerful way to feel good inside. What’s even cooler about this kindness kick is that not only will you feel better, but so will people watching the act of kindness. How extraordinary is that? A side note is that the job of most anti-depressants is to release more serotonin. Move over Pfizer, kindness is kicking ass and taking names.

5. Nurture social relationships. — The happiest people on the planet are the ones who have deep, meaningful relationships. Did you know studies show that people’s mortality rates are DOUBLED when they’re lonely? WHOA! There’s a warm fuzzy feeling that comes from having an active circle of good friends who you can share your experiences with. We feel connected and a part of something more meaningful than our lonesome existence.

6. Develop strategies for coping. — How you respond to the “craptastic” moments is what shapes your character. Sometimes crap happens — it’s inevitable. Forrest Gump knows the deal. It can be hard to come up with creative solutions in the moment when manure is making its way up toward the fan. It helps to have healthy strategies for coping pre-rehearsed, on-call, and in your arsenal at your disposal.

7. Learn to forgive. — Harboring feelings of hatred is horrible for your well-being.You see, your mind doesn’t know the difference between past and present emotion. When you “hate” someone, and you’re continuously thinking about it, those negative emotions are toxic for your well-being. You put yourself in a state of suckerism (technical term) and it stays with you throughout your day.

8. Increase flow experiences. — Flow is a state in which it feels like time stands still. It’s when you’re so focused on what you’re doing that you become one with the task. Action and awareness are merged. You’re not hungry, sleepy, or emotional. You’re just completely engaged in the activity that you’re doing. Nothing is distracting you or competing for your focus.

9. Savor life’s joys. — Deep happiness cannot exist without slowing down to enjoy the joy. It’s easy in a world of wild stimuli and omnipresent movement to forget to embrace life’s enjoyable experiences. When we neglect to appreciate, we rob the moment of its magic. It’s the simple things in life that can be the most rewarding if we remember to fully experience them.

10. Commit to your goals. — Being wholeheartedly dedicated to doing something comes fully-equipped with an ineffable force. Magical things start happening when we commit ourselves to doing whatever it takes to get somewhere. When you’re fully committed to doing something, you have no choice but to do that thing. Counter-intuitively, having no option — where you can’t change your mind — subconsciously makes humans happier because they know part of their purpose.

11. Practice spirituality. — When we practice spirituality or religion, we recognize that life is bigger than us. We surrender the silly idea that we are the mightiest thing ever. It enables us to connect to the source of all creation and embrace a connectedness with everything that exists. Some of the most accomplished people I know feel that they’re here doing work they’re “called to do.”

12. Take care of your body. — Taking care of your body is crucial to being the happiest person you can be. If you don’t have your physical energy in good shape, then your mental energy (your focus), your emotional energy (your feelings), and your spiritual energy (your purpose) will all be negatively affected. Did you know that studies conducted on people who were clinically depressed showed that consistent exercise raises happiness levels just as much as Zoloft? Not only that, but here’s the double whammy… Six months later, the people who participated in exercise were less likely to relapse because they had a higher sense of self-accomplishment and self-worth.””

iBumped into the above dozen of stuff via Spesh’s world and iCouldnt resist sharing it.

Like Mark Twain thoughtfully said, twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things that you didn’t do than by the ones you did do. So throw off the bowlines. Sail away from the safe harbor. Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore. Dream. Discover.

Hope a thing or more from the post has touched your life positively 🙂 . Remember, life is too short to be anything but happy. Live a fulfilled happy life and love thyself plus thy life.



Texting/networking while driving: Guilty or naah??!

So many people around the globe are fascinated-by and addicted-to communication via texting and also ‘social networking'(twitter, FB, I.G, whatsapp etc).
Yes, it is super fast and easy to reach out and recive messages/media at the speed of light….but would you want your means of communication and networking to be your cause of death? of course your answer is NO.

Watch this video about how dangerous it is to text/network & drive, iPromise it would be worth every second of your time(and worth every data you burn^^). 👇👇

Truth be told,  a lot of people are guity of texting & checking social-media updates while driving  and they feel it is harmless and feel it’s not a bad thing. A lot of people think they have mastered the art of texting/networking and driving but it is a delusion. That quick look at your phone is longer than you think.

Imagine living your life knowing you killed someone for a text message. Imagine living your life after killing the people you carried in your car over a text message or a glimpse at a social-media.

Drop your cell phone while you’re driving, and if you absolutely must check your phone or send a message, pull over at a safe place and do that.
No text or social-media is so important that it is worth your life or someone elses.

Don’t be another accident waiting to happen.Dont text and drive.

I’ve been guilty of texting while driving a couple of times but today iTake a vow never to do that ever again ✋. What ever it is can wait, YES, it can surely wait.

Take the vow not to text/network and drive today, life is too short to die or kill someone over a text message or any social media. Drive safe and be safe.

With love from Q.B.

Inspired by Omar❤️